Why is this happening to me?

My hell was depression. It held me firmly in its grips for most of my life. It robbed me of job opportunities, new friends, old pastimes. It took away my personality, hope and all the joy in my life. It grabbed everything until what was left of me was an empty shell.

Why was this happening to me?

They say that what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I thought it was just going to kill me. But they were right. When I came out of that tunnel, I was a completely new person. The pain had burned my old beliefs to ashes and purified my mind. Forged new strength in me. Instilled in me the courage to be my authentic self and do the work I was meant to do in the world.

And so, whatever flavour of personal hell you’re going through right now, I want you to know that pain isn’t senseless. it’s there to teach you a lesson and make you a better person.

This is what awaits you on the other side of the tunnel:


You’ll Become Alive

You’ll feel like you’ve just woken up from a long sleep. The you you were before preferred to stay in her comfort zone, play it small, do the same things she always did. Now you can’t wait to get out of it, explore all the world has to offer, try new things you were too scared to try before. You’ll enroll for that dance class you always wanted to attend, travel the world, start your business, dance in the rain, volunteer, learn French… You’ll want to live life to the full and make the most of every minute.

You’ll Become More Compassionate

You’ll sense other people’s suffering. Your heart will ache for them. You’ll want to help them. Sometimes, that means going out of your way to visit a lonely relative who lives on the other side of the country or help a stranger find a job. Other times, you’ll just be there to listen. You won’t do it because you have to. You’ll do it because you want to. You’ll feel this is what you’re meant to do in the world.

You’ll Become Wiser

You’re done with people pleasing. Done with trying to keep up with the Joneses. Done playing it small. Done with compromising. Done with dream doubters and Negative Nancies. Done with the bullshit. That’s what got you in trouble in the first place. Now you’ve been to hell and back, you’ll do life on your own terms. You’ll become YOUR authentic selves. Make YOUR dreams come true. Make decisions that align with values and take you where you really want to go.


You’ll Become Braver

You’ve been to hell and survived it. Nothing scares you now. Nothing can be that bad again. There’s still be hard times but now you know you’ve got what it takes to overcome them and thrive. Armed with this newfound confidence, you’ll be able to take on every challenge. Making your dreams come true has never been so easy or exciting.

You’ll Become “Time Wise”

You know that everything happens for a reason and at its own pace. But you’ll also feel a sense of urgency. Now you know what you want and that you’ve got what it takes to make it happen, you want to make it happen NOW! When you fall in love, you’ll want to move to that next level ASAP. When you start a project, you’ll spend entire days working at your desk. All those things that used to distract you before hold no power over you now. You’re a girl on a mission. You’ve got no time to waste.

It was all worth it.

Over to you, now. How did you change after you went through the pain and came out on the other side? Share your experience in the comments below.

With love,

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