I don’t want a job. I want to do work I’m passionate about, that sets my soul on fire and makes the world a better place.
If you’re here, I guess you feel the same. Problem is, how?
How do you know what that work is? And even if you find it, can you really do it without compromising your values and selling out? Do business and spirituality mix?
I believe they do. And so does Danielle LaPorte (huge girlboss crush here!). Her book “The Firestarter Sessions: A Soulful + Practical Guide To Creating Success On Your Own Terms” is a call to all artists to get out of their shell and do the work they’re meant to do.
Here are the 3 most important lessons I’ve learned from The Firestarter Sessions:
Getting Clear On How You Want To Feel Is More Important Than Setting Goals
I came to London to become a freelance beauty writer.
I digged the lifestyle: getting wined and dined and taken on fancy trips by brands who wanted coverage, being the first to try new products on the market and hanging out with my fave beauty journalists and influencers, the people who I admire and look up to.
Plus, I’d get to write about what I loved and be paid a lot for it, too.
I hated every second of it. It took forever to get magazines to commission your work. Months to get paid. And those press breakfasts were boring AF.
Worse, the work wasn’t fulfilling me. I naively thought I could bust beauty myths and help women buy only what works, but all brands and mags alike wanted was promotional articles that praised the products. If the consumer got duped, it didn’t matter.
I could have avoided myself the disappointment if I had gotten clear on how I wanted to feel from the start instead than setting goals.
You see, my goal of becoming a freelance beauty writer was totally based on the glamorous lifestyle I thought it would afford me. I thought going to fancy events and writing about lipsticks would make me happy. It didn’t.
If I had gotten clear on how I wanted to feel – fulfilled, like my work makes a difference, fired-up – I’d have realised that writing for magazines didn’t align with my values. No wonder I felt so unhappy!
When I asked myself how I wanted to feel, this website was born. 🙂
Related: How To Set Goals With Soul
Life/Work Balance Is A Myth
I’m a workhaolic. I work 15+ hours a day. I’m often told that’s too much. Maybe, it is. But how am I going to make my dreams come true if I don’t give them my all?
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying (and Danielle certainly isn’t either) that you should sleep 3 hours a night, never see your family and friends and spend every waking moment working.
Self-care and sleep are important. So are you friends and family.
So are your dreams. If you want to make them come true, striving for balance is a losing game. You’ll never get it right.
Some days, you’re so closed to hitting a deadline, you need to spend a couple more hours at work. On other days, your partner gets a promotion and you need to take time off work to celebrate in style.
Either way, if balance is what you’re striving for, you’ll feel guilty. Guilty for spending more time at work and neglecting your friends. Guilty for taking too much time off for being with your loved ones instead of doing the work.
How about we throw balance off the window and spend our time doing what makes us happy – whatever that is that day?
Related: You Don’t Have To
Being A Jack-Of-All-Trades Is Overrated
Gosh, I hated school. Whenever I got a good grade, no one cared. No one encouraged me to practice my English more, write more short stories and improve my research skills. My English grades were good enough, why bother?
Whenever I got a bad grade, everyone cared. Everyone told me to spend more hours learning Maths, solving algebra problems and memorizing theorems. My Maths grades never got any better. All that extra work was just a waste of time.
Can you imagine how different your life would be if you had been encouraged to focus on your strengths instead than your weaknesses from the start?
When you focus on what you’re good at, you become a master at it. And mastery is what makes you succeed.
Beyonce’ isn’t Beyonce’ because she’s an average singer. She’s Beyonce’ because she’s the best at what she does. Can you imagine if her parents had encouraged her to be a lawyer instead of supporting her talents?
No one ever achieved their dreams by being average at what they do. So once you’ve found your strengths, double down on them. As for the rest, don’t worry.
You’re not supposed to make your dreams come true on your own. You’ll find people to help you in your weak areas. Heck, if you become a master at what you do, they’ll beg you to let them use their talents to help you.
The Firestarter Sessions push you to explore yourself, find what makes you happy and do work that aligns with your character and true calling.
Sprinkled throughout the book you’ll find worksheets that’ll help you strip away all the materialistic stuff and define success on your own terms.
If you’re questioning your career path, want to change job but don’t know what else to do or just want to know if you’re on the right track, get yourself a copy of The Firestarter Sessions. It’s available at Amazon UK and Amazon US.
Over to you, now. What are your thoughts on The Firestarter Sessions? Let me know in the comments below.