Follow your passion.
Easier said than done. I’ve always known what my passion is. Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to move to London and write books.
But how could I do it when it meant I’d have to leave all my loved ones behind, earn no money and likely end up homeless?
Following your passion is as scary as hell.
So, I decided to do something different (which is just the same, really). I followed my fear, instead:
When You Should Not Follow Your Fear
Let’s be clear. I’m not saying you should follow your fear all the time.
If you’d like to explore a dangerous neighbourhood alone at 3 am in the morning, are being chased by a lion or want to put all your life savings into one stock, you should listen to your fear and run in the opposite direction.
If it puts you, your loved ones or your finances in danger, your fear’s right. Don’t do it.
When You Should Follow Your Fear
When you get butterflies in your stomach. An itch that you just can’t scratch. A desire so powerful, it won’t let you sleep until you fulfill it.
When the thought of doing something excites you so badly, but then fear sets in and you start doubting yourself. Now, you’re sure it’ won’t work. You’ll just make a fool of yourself. Lose your all your money, your house, your loved ones and will spend the rest of your short life living under a bridge.
Ok, maybe you’ll make a fool of yourself. And you’ll definitely make a lot of mistakes along the way. But will they really leave you homeless, friendless and destitute? Nope.
So, why not follow this fear? Here’s why you should (and here my 5 step-process to deal with this type of fear):[clickToTweet tweet=”Follow your fear. It’ll take you where your soul needs to go.” quote=”Follow your fear. It’ll take you where your soul needs to go.”]
1. Fear Shows You What You Care About
Have you ever been afraid to lose something you couldn’t care less about? Of course, not.
You don’t feel fear when you go shopping for a new dress, try a new moisturizer or cook dinner. You don’t care that much about these things. Even if you buy a dress that doesn’t suit you that much or burn your dinner, your self-worth isn’t attached to these results.Fear is there to protect what's important to you, what you value and hold sacred. And what's more sacred than your passion and your dreams?
You’re scared that, if they see the light and are shared with the world, they’ll be ridiculed. Diminished. Destroyed.
So, you keep them safely locked in a little corner of your heart, where they slowly wither and die, anyway.
Don’t kill off your dreams because you’re too scared others will kill them for you. If you feel fear, it means you care. Care enough to follow it to the very end.
2. Fear Is Resistance
Resistance is what happens when you try to push past your comfort zone.
Think of it as a thermostat. If the thermostat in your house is set at 23°C and you open the window on a winter day, the heat will kick into a higher gear and work harder to keep the room at your desired temperature.
Fear works like that. It wants you to stay in your comfort zone and keep the status quo so you won’t have to test your limits, stretch your boundaries and grow.
But, you desperately want to grow. You wouldn’t feel that resistance if the desire to follow your passion weren’t burning deep inside your soul, beginning you to fan its flames.Desire is the other side of fear. You can't have the one without the other.
3. Fear Is The Way
We think of fear as the enemy and passion the antidote that will melt it away.
It doesn’t work like that. You know now that your passions and your fears are intertwined. If you’re passionate about something, you’re usually scared shitless to do it.
It’s when you face your fear head on and walk through it that your find the solutions to your problems, discover meaning and purpose in your life and turn your dreams into a reality.What you fear the most is usually what you most have to do.
Over to you now. Have you ever followed your fear and where has it led you before? Or have you always run away from it but now are determined to follow it, instead? Share your story in the comments below.