It sucks.

I’m not even sure what. I just feel it. The relentless dissatisfaction. The exhausting discomfort. That nagging feeling that’s something wrong and I’m out of alignment.

It’s time for a change.


Last time the bug bit me, I jumped on a plane to London and never looked back. That first year, I got the job of my dreams, met a man who worships me and earned more money than I had ever seen before.

Since then, I feel like I’ve taken so many wrong turns. London is the most magical city in the world. It’s also ruthless. Expensive as hell. You need to earn well to enjoy a decent standard of living and there’s always someone around the corner ready to undermine you and take your place.

Before you know it, you’re back to making decisions out of fear. You’re hanging out with the wrong crowd just so you’re not alone. Take jobs you hate so you can keep the lifestyle you’ve gotten used to. Chase dreams that were never your own so you can keep up with the Joneses.

You don’t even know how you got there but you know that’s not what your life’s supposed to be like and ignoring that little voice that tells you “this isn’t working for you” gets harder and harder.


You know it’s time to make a change. But you’re paralyzed. Change means letting go of what’s not working. But what if you let go of the wrong things?

You need clarity. But how to get it? How do you know for certain what needs to go so you can get right back on track and live the life you’re meant to live?

The answer’s inside you.

You need to take a cold, hard, honest look at what’s not working. And that’s scary. Painful, even.

It’s also what allows you to make the leap from discomfort to relief, from mediocrity to excellence, from living the life other people have chosen for you to living life on your own terms.


The trick is to resist any judgements or temptations to fix things. Just look at your life like a stranger would and ask yourself these questions:

  1. What do you wish you would never have to do again?
  2. What do you keep complaining about over and over again?
  3. If you had a magic wand, what would you change about your life?

Write the answers down on a piece of paper. Don’t worry if the answers don’t come all in one go. Think them over for a few days.

Sit with the discomfort, the dissatisfaction, the frustration. Listen to what they’re telling you. They’re a compass pointing you in the right direction.

Only then, you can start making the changes you need to live the life you truly want.

Over to you, now. What would you like to change in your life right now? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

With love,

Leave a Comment

why I don't have time is an excuse 04