There are books I wish I had when I was younger, trapped in Fear Town and living with my not-so-lovely roommate, Inner Mean Girl.
Mastering My Inner Mean Girl by Melissa Ambrosini is one of these books.
As soon as I started flicking through its pages, I felt like I was talking to an old friend. Someone who’s been there and knows how much it hurts to have that voice inside your head who’s always telling you you’re not pretty enough/smart enough/good enough/whatever enough, take jobs that don’t light you up and be stuck in toxic relationships.
Melissa gets it. And now that she’s managed to master her own Inner Mean Girl, she wants to inspire you to do the same. Not preach. Inspire. She’s the cheerleader you always wish you had in your corner. Here’s what she’s cheering and chanting:
1. Choose Love Over Fear. Always
You take a job you don’t like because you’re scared you won’t be able to pay the bills.
You diet and starve yourself because you’re afraid others won’t find you attractive if you’re not a size 0.
You stay in a relationship way past its due date because you’re terrified of being alone.
Fear. Fear. Fear. Behind every bad choice lies fear.
What if we made decisions out of love, instead? How would your life be different if you choose to nourish your body with healthy foods or walk out of a relationship that doesn’t serve you?
You can. In every given moment, you can make the choice to go with love instead of fear. But, be warned. Your Inner Mean Girl will fight you every step of the way. She’s afraid of change. That’s why she’s bullying you into staying where you are.
But, that’s not serving you. It’s just making your miserable. Choosing love may seem terrifying at first, but it’s incredible how things start falling into place once you take that first step.
Next time you’re taking a decision, ask yourself, “What would love do?” Do that, gorgeous.In every moment, you have two choices: love or fear - your truth or your Inner Mean Girl. - Melissa AmbrosiniClick To Tweet
2. Do The Work
There’s no escaping this one. Anything that’s worth doing requires hard work. Mastering your Inner Mean Girl is no exception.
Choosing love over fear sometimes means taking a good hard look at your life and asking yourself the tough questions, like why you’re falling into the same bad patterns over and over again.
It means staring at your Inner Mean Girl straight in the eye, telling her you’re gonna do what scares you anyway before gently closing the door on her.
It means cutting out of your life the people who don’t serve you and don’t have your best interest at heart.
It means allowing yourself to fully feel the pain, heartache, fears and insecurities you’ve been desperately trying to numb and run away from for years.
It means overcoming your limiting beliefs so you can finally live the life you want.The only way out of your fear is through it.
3. Be Your Authentic Self
When you suppress your truth, you’re letting it fester inside you and slowly destroy every area of your life.
Being your authentic self takes courage. It means to be vulnerable. To let others see your joys and your tears, your successes and your failures, your values and your flaws.
There’s nothing more attractive than that. Vulnerability is like a magnet that attracts others to you.
By being your unapologetic self and living your truth, you can make a huge impact on the world.Don't be afraid to shine your light. The world needs it.
Over to you, now. Which of these tips resonate more with you and what are you doing to master your Inner Mean Girl?